MY JUDGEMENT "THE SPECIAL ONE"

MY JUDGEMENT "THE SPECIAL ONE"


Marriage is a wonderful thing. Yes.
But you do not rush into it.
You need prayers, blessings from both parents (parents of the two partners involved) and studying / knowing your partner and the tradition better.
In as much as prayer is good, the other two tell more about a partner.

What do I mean?

When you create time for yourselves,  you study and find out if you can MANAGE or TOLERATE (not ENDURE) the flaws of your partner because he or she will never be PERFECT. When you involve so much sex and look at his or her huge pocket, your reasoning and judgement will be bias.

If your parents welcome him and his welcomes you whole heartedly, then it is a plus because they will stand by you in not-too-rosy situations which will definitely come.

PRAYERS good. But you may not get to know God's answers. Only few do. The answers you think come from God may be your thinking which is usually influenced by what we call love or the pocket size and spending weight of your partner.

FINE.
PLACE, TRADITION and FAMILY matter a lot in marriage.
Example is OSU-CASTE-SYSTEM, many do not regard it but it is a very important thing to look out for in my place. BEING TOO CHURCHY NO REACH THERE OOO.
In some places, Some offer their wives as kola to visitors,etc.

So you have to take your making decisions about marriage personal.
You know what you want. Place them side by side and ask yourself if you can cope with that partner you call "the special one". If you can, then go without any mixed feeling and make your marriage work.

NOTE: character is an individual's way of life and not community's. So do not judge a person by his or her community.  There is sense in nonsense. So good thing can come from the dustbin.

LIVE RIGHT
LOVE RIGHT
MARRY RIGHT